Soledad vs Loneliness: how to be alone without feeling alone
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Loneliness, loneliness and isolation, while they are related to each other, are different. Loneliness can be good for your well -being, but not if it is unwanted isolation.
As someone prone to anxiety and stress, I have actively sought loneliness in the form of meditation retreats in several places.
I thought they would train me to better take care of my mental health without depending on the external validation of any person.
My last retirement in Burma took place in the middle of a forest infested with creatures with huge snake snakes. I slept in a room that housed tropical size cockroaches that was not allowed to kill.
As you can probably imagine, when I left my loneliness 10 days later, I felt like Superwoman.
My will was much stronger than I had imagined. My trust grew from this experience, serving as a reminder that I can, and I will be fine alone.
While now I am quite comfortable in chosen solitude, I have a much more difficult time when loneliness is imposed by external circumstances, and that is the main difference when trying to understand loneliness in the face of loneliness and social isolation.
They are different from each other and sometimes they can be confused.
During the coronavirus block, for example, I worked in front of a computer all day. I had no interaction with anyone and was as insulating and lonely as those retreats were, if no more, for different reasons.
However, I was not the only one who felt just because of the lack of social interaction.
This forced loneliness was the shared experience of many who participated in the Covid-19 survey of the Lonelity roots project during the first months of the pandemic.
Before pandemic, 28.9% of those who lived alone reported that they fought with loneliness. However, after the pandemic began, 67.7% of those who lived alone felt something or much more lonely due to the loneliness imposed.
Echoing my own experience with involuntary loneliness during pandemic, almost 60% of respondents reported that what they lost most was being with friends and family who did not live with them.
A respondent said moving: “I like to be a hermit and isolate me a lot. Now that I don't have the freedom to see family and friends who care, isolation, you can feel that I am struggling to breathe. "
Whether you have felt only as a result of the loneliness imposed or chosen, it is far from being alone.
Let's explore how loneliness, loneliness and isolation are related to each other, and how can be faced with unwanted feelings of loneliness and loneliness.