Psychology: How to build your personal identity

 

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Personal identity consists of the things that make you highlight in a crowd, for example, your megawatt smile or brilliant ingenuity. According to David Buss, a psychologist at the University of Texas in Austin, personal identity consists of a public self and a private self, each with its own components.
Three important aspects constitute public being:

• Appearance: Being aware of your appearance is a large part of your identity. This is not an exclusive perspective of Western civilization. Cultures around the world participate in elaborate attempts to improve appearances and improve personal beauty, as each particular culture defines it. Some philosophers claim that a sense of aesthetics is essential for good life.
• Style: George Clooney, Harry Styles and Rihanna have style, and, in the case of Harry, it is literally within his name! The way they speak, their body language and their facial expressions are undeniably "them." Everyone has a peculiar way of speaking and moving. These things constitute a person's style. However, it is not confused with the examples of Clooney, Styles or Riri; The style is not about being "great." Your style is exclusive to you, whether great or not.
• Personality: Personality theories try to explain individuality based on differences between personalities. Personalities are durable and do not change easily.
• The private being consists of characteristics that are difficult to see and observe: their thoughts, feelings and dreams and fantasies.
• Thoughts: Knowing what someone is thinking is difficult, unless they tell you. Some people are better than others to discover what people are thinking, but in reality it is nothing more than a sophisticated riddle process.
• Feelings: Mental health professionals often evaluate new patients in psychiatric hospitals with something called mental state exam. The professional observes the patient, partly to discover how the patient feels. This observable aspect of how someone feels is the effect.
• Sounddreams/Fantasies: Who would you be without your dreams and fantasies? Again, fantasies are typically private, especially sexual. Yours are unique to you and define you. Ya

Your social identity

What's your name? Where are you from? What is your religion? Each of these questions is a component of an aspect of their social identity: those things that identify it with a particular social category.
Group affiliation refers to things such as its vocations and social clubs. Many people identify for their type of work. But another important dimension of social identity is the types of social clubs and the cliques with which an Afilia person. Their social identity consists of certain identity factors that, when they all take together, equal social "you" these factors include kinship, race and ethnicity, and religious beliefs.

Relationship

Killing is essential for social identity. His relatives are their "relatives", and most people get their surnames from their families of origin. In the United States, surnames are legal names and a fairly reliable way of identifying people. Although many people have the same name, many more.

Ethnicity and nationality

Ethnicity is another important aspect of social identity and is defined as a classification of belonging to a particular group based on a similar cultural tradition. The categories are quite arbitrary on behalf, but include a lot of information. Some people feel more comfortable without identifying ethnic differences between people because they fear discrimination.

Religious and group affiliations

Religious affiliation affects the social identity of a person to varying degrees. The religious identity of an individual is a central aspect to determine who they are.

Self esteem

Unfortunately, sometimes having a mirror self (based on your sense of yourself on how you think others perceive) can be a bad thing. While other people see you in good light, everything is fine. But this often is not the case. Children, for example, are sometimes belittled, left or verbally abused by their own parents. Even adults know that others do not always keep them in the highest esteem, so many people do not have much attention for themselves.
Buss offers a good review of six main sources of self -esteem:

• Appearance: people generally feel better with themselves when they feel attractive. A lot of research in social psychology has shown that people judged as attractive have more favors and are preferred by social interaction more than those that are not.
• Capacity and performance: people feel better with themselves when they get good grades, have a good performance at work and do things successfully. The more a person can achieve by himself, the more likely he will feel good about himself.
• Power: When a person feels that she has control of her life, she is more likely to feel good about herself. There are at least three sub-funds of a sense of power: domain, status and money. Domination can be achieved by coercion, competence or leadership. The State and money speak for themselves.

Social rewards: Three types of social rewards tend to make people feel good about who they are:

Affection: People like you.

Praise: Someone tells you that you are doing a good job.

Respect: others value their opinions, thoughts and actions.

• Indirect elements: this source of self -esteem is about feeling good about itself due to things "outside" instead of "inside." The reflected glory makes you feel good because you get an impulse to be close or associated with successful, powerful or popular people. It is the form of self -esteem "I know famous people." Having pleasant material possessions can also make some people feel better with themselves.
• Morality: Morality implies being a good person and living according to the standards and rules of social behavior that he admires. For the most part, morality is a relative term. But, when someone feels that they have taken the moral terrain (however, they define it) in a situation, they are likely to have positive self -esteem.